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Newsletter vol. 32 - The mojo is returning! (Importance of reflection/success leaves clues)

In my last newsletter, I laid my soul bare and explained that I too, have been feeling a little lost recently. After re-visiting my values and identifying what’s been missing, I’ve spent the last two weeks concentrating on taking small actions to help get me back on track.

Tony Robbins says that success leaves clues. It is helpful to think back to the times when you’ve felt happy, on top of things and full of energy and reflect on what was different then? What were you doing then that you’re not doing now?

When I wrote my book and for the few years surrounding that, I felt at my best. I was getting up at 5am every morning, going for a run, coming back and meditating, doing some body weight exercises, having a healthy smoothie, eating well throughout the day and going to bed about 9:30pm. As I said in my book though, I am a bit of an all or nothing type of person and once I’ve got my mind on something I go all in. The problem was that with the running, I went too far in! I was running everyday and pushing myself to the limit. Every day I went out to beat my time. If, for whatever reason, I couldn’t go running, I would feel discombobulated and would feel stressed about it throughout the day. I suppose it became a bit like an addiction. I thought at the time that it was healthy but looking back now the pressure that I was putting myself under and the strain I was putting on my body wasn’t good. The over-training led to me injuring my ankle which stopped me from running properly for over a year. All of the other healthy habits that I’d worked hard to embed then went a bit wayward too.

So, as I’ve reflected on this over the last few weeks, I’ve realised that for me, the running is the thing that underpins everything. It is the thing that I love. It is the thing that energises me, gets me out and about in nature, in the fresh air. I knew I needed to bring this back into my life but in a healthier way. For the last two weeks, I have been getting up at 5am. I find that this is my favourite time of the day. I accepted that I need that time and space to wake up slowly, to have that time to myself before the hustle and bustle of family and working life begins. I feel as though I have a completely different attitude to my running now. I have been out most days but I’ve not worn my Fitbit, I’ve not been interested in the time, I’ve just been enjoying being out in the fresh air, listening to my podcasts, doing my affirmations and preparing myself for the day. Some days, I’ve just walked but I’ve still felt so proud of myself for getting up and doing something positive for my mental health, more than anything. Without good mental health, our world feels dark. We can have all the money in the world, the most toned legs, the flashiest car but without the ability to process our emotions and have resilience in this area, none of these things matter.

I said last week that one of my top values is learning and growth. I’ve been enjoying listening to podcasts again and I LOVE passing the knowledge from these to my clients and loved ones. I have completely fallen in love with Mike Dooley. He is a speaker in all things spiritual and talks a lot about the power of manifesting and how our thoughts become things. He was a contributor to ‘The Secret’ by Rhonda Byrne for those of you that are aware of the Law of Attraction. He hasn’t said anything I don’t know so far but the way that he explains these hefty concepts is brilliant! I love his energy, the language he uses and his honesty. The messages that I’ve heard so many times from other speakers and writers, are finally syncing in. One of the reasons why I haven’t been on social media over the last couple of months is that I’ve felt like I haven’t got anything to say, that people haven’t already heard before. Listening to Mike Dooley has helped me to realise that you don’t need to be reinventing the wheel all of the time. The way YOU explain things, the examples YOU give and YOUR energy, may just help someone to understand an idea and have a lightbulb moment of their own. From my revelations this week, I wanted to remind you of this too.

You don’t need to be anything other than who you are. Who you are right now will be just right for some people and that is amazing. You can’t please everybody.

For all you other business owners out there, I understand what it’s like to get caught up in the comparison trap. You think ‘everyone’ out there is doing better than you; they’re making more money; they have amazing ideas; they have more likes than you. You have just got to put your blinkers on, ignore what others are doing and JUST BE YOU! The service you provide will be like no others. There’s literally NO-ONE doing what you’re doing, like you! We have to stop putting so much pressure on ourselves to be better, to be perfect. Whatever career you have, wherever you are in your life, just stop and appreciate where you’re at and how you got there. Stop and appreciate who you are and how YOU made this happen. Stop trying to please other people and do what they’re doing, just be authentically YOU. You’ll be the right person for the right people.

So, to sum up this hodge-podge of an email…

Reflect on what you were doing when you were at your happiest and do that!

Make 1 small positive change towards being the person you want to be in the future (any positive step is needs celebrating)

Be you, because you are already an INCREDIBLE human – you don’t need to try so hard!

Recognise that you won’t be a good fit for everyone but you have magic that the right people will want to see and hear

No matter where you are in your life, you’ll be a step ahead of someone who can learn from you. You too have a voice worth listening to.

Take the pressure off yourself to be perfect, celebrate what you ARE doing and you’ll have your mojo back in no time

Mine is definitely coming back! The dark cloud is lifting and actually when you start to take focussed action, it often doesn’t take long to start feeling better. You too can lift the dark clouds in your mind and we’ll be here to help you to do this when you’re ready.

Just keep being awesome.

Have a magical week, you beautiful people 🌈💜🎉

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